Besides making you feel great and positively affecting your sex life, masturbation has a number of positive effects on your overall health and well-being.

Despite this (and the fact that most people masturbate or will at some point), masturbation remains taboo, especially for people with vaginas.

As a result, aside from porn and the occasional sex scene on TV, learning to masturbate in a way that actually gets you turned on and off, while also being in tune with your body, isn't something that's often taught or discussed.

For a long time, women's sexual pleasure was seen as something we give to our partners rather than something we enjoy ourselves. Thankfully, those days of putting your pleasure ^second are over.

Masturbation is natural, powerful, and empowering , and while experiencing an orgasm is a pleasurable side effect, it is certainly not the only one! Masturbation can also affect how good you feel about yourself, how safe you feel in your body, and how open you are with your partner.

So how do you make the most of your self-love session? Keep reading to find out how to maximize masturbation and make it magical !

Don't make 'coming' your goal

Often, the more you want an orgasm, the harder it is to achieve one. Some people orgasm while masturbating, while others do not - or may only experience orgasms occasionally.

Our suggestion? Just relax and don’t pressure yourself to climax. While you may be wondering what the point of masturbating is, you’ll be happy to know that you’ll get the same benefits from masturbation, like stress relief and the release of feel-good chemicals like dopamine, just from your own pleasure, without an orgasm.

By not aiming for climax and focusing on exploring sensual contact, you'll learn about your body's responses — what feels good, how your body responds to different types of touch, and what your body craves more of.

It feels great to increase your self-awareness and to be able to give your own body pleasure. So go with the flow and give yourself a big dose of love (you also increase your chances of coming if you take some of the pressure off and just enjoy the experience!)

Practice mindfulness

Trust us; mindful masturbation is a thing!

Nowadays it is so easy to get caught up in and preoccupied with all sorts of nonsense. While there is a time and a place for everything, you don’t want to be worrying about your laundry while you’re pampering your clitoris.

While it can be easy to get distracted by your surroundings, practice being mindful and present. Deepen your breathing by holding your breath for 7-10 seconds at a time. Close your eyes and focus on how and what you are feeling instead of what is happening around you.

Pamper yourself

As emphasized in the above points, it is of utmost importance to relax and be in the right state of mind before you can enjoy your body and the beauty it offers.

Creating a transition period before masturbation by doing something nice and calming for the body (like taking a long shower or bath) can help relax the mind.

You can also prepare for the occasion by doing things like taking yourself out to dinner or putting on your sexiest lingerie . Making yourself feel special will help you feel like a million bucks (and in a good mood) when you start masturbating.

Also, just like with partnered sex, make sure you’re turned on and have some lube on hand. Whether you’re sexting or listening to porn (yes, it’s a thing!), warming up will make the process much more satisfying.

Choose a sex toy that suits your needs

When it comes to masturbation, there are a few different variations, each with its own specific pleasure function. If you’re new to sex toys, consider how you best orgasm and choose a toy that provides just that.

Clitoral Vibration : This can range from small bullet vibrators to larger wand type vibrators. Bullet vibrators provide more focused stimulation, while wand vibrations are more diffuse.

Wands offer the most power, but they lack the convenience of bullets, which are generally smaller, quieter, and more discreet.

And don't forget: air suction toys , which feel like they're sucking on your clit.

Internal Toys : Whether or not you believe in the existence of the G-spot, internal stimulation can be very pleasurable for some people. While most people with vulvas orgasm from clitoral stimulation, adding internal stimulation can make the experience even better.

Dildos and vibrators with a curve (the curve gives you leverage to reach places a partner's penis might not be able to) are examples of toys with a shaft that are designed to be used internally and to stimulate your G-spot.

Combination internal/clitoral toys : The most classic example of these are rabbit toys , which have a shaft for penetration and special "ears" to stimulate your clitoris at the same time.

Anal Toys : This includes everything from butt plugs, anal beads or anal dildos. Because anal toys have a clearly flared base, you can always tell a butt toy apart from a vaginal toy. (Find all of these toys in our stores !)

Combining butt toys with clitoral stimulation can be quite pleasurable for some people. Butt toys take masturbation to a new level, whether it’s wearing a butt plug for a feeling of “fullness” or removing one anal bead at a time during a clitoral orgasm.