It can be a lot of fun – and laughter and sex are never a bad combination.

Role playing is one of the most common sexual fantasies. And that’s no surprise, because it allows you to transform yourself into a completely different person and forget about the real world for a while. We all want to escape from reality sometimes, right? But how do you get started with role playing? In this blog, we’ll tell you how to do it best!

Any form of sexual or kinky role play starts in one place: your imagination. But before you do anything, it’s important to have a good conversation with your partner(s) about your expectations, boundaries, safe words. Only play with a partner you trust and can communicate openly and honestly with. So all that dressing up or pretending to be a superhero was the innocent version of what you can do now. Go more elaborate or keep it simple - it’s all about doing what turns you on.

1. Practice alone

If this is your first time trying it, you will probably feel a little awkward. So get to know your character before you introduce them to your partner! Think about what your role sounds like… Do you have an accent? What words do you use? Take some time to shape your character and practice this when you are alone. Maybe just before you go to sleep, when you are lying in bed. You will probably find it exciting to delve into your alter ego in this way… see it as a kind of foreplay!

2. Discuss role play

Okay, so while it might not be super spontaneous, it’s a good idea to discuss roleplaying with each other before you start your first time. Talk about it a few days beforehand. Are you really going to pretend you don’t know each other? Are you going to pretend it’s a secret affair? It’s good to agree on these things so you can really take your play to the next level.

If you’re worried about feeling awkward, you can also roleplay without costumes first, or start with costumes but just act like yourself. That way, you’ll ease into it a bit. And remember, it’s okay if one of you gets out of character or laughs.

3. Start slow

Role playing is perfect for a very long foreplay. Start as early as the morning or the night before. Talk to your partner in your alter ego accent every now and then and see how it goes. Get to know each other better. It is also a lot of fun to go out together and slip into the alter role while talking about normal things. People around you will have no idea that you are role playing, which makes it extra sexy.

Need some inspiration?

You can buy sexy costumes online, in our stores or costume shops, or you can use your wardrobe to put together the perfect outfit for your character. You certainly don’t have to dress up to roleplay, but it can certainly make your scene more real. It can also be a lot of fun.

Are you the type to go for the sexy cop? The plumber who comes to fix your pipes or the maid who cleans every corner of the room? Some people are full of ideas for roleplays, while others could use some inspiration. Luckily, we have plenty of examples for you here!

Sexy examples

A bit cliché, but no less fun... a sexy nurse, a cleaning lady who likes to get dirty, or an innocent student. You really don't have to be super original when it comes to roleplaying. If it works, it works.

The most important thing is to be open with your partner and let your imagination run wild. Be willing to be silly and make mistakes - this is supposed to be fun! And as you get into character and let go of your inhibitions, you might be surprised at where your fantasies take you.