Sex is something very powerful and special. It is good for your body, it is good for your mind. And when you feel strongly attracted to the other person and have a nice physical and mental connection with each other, then sex can be a special experience and moment together.
There are many benefits to having more sex in a relationship. You often see positive changes with more sexual activity, such as lower blood pressure, less stress, more intimacy, and even a lower divorce rate. It can create a deep sense of connection between you and your partner. But to enjoy all of these wonderful benefits, it is important that you are able to truly indulge in sex. And that can be difficult in the busy lives that most of us have.
In this blog we will tell you why sex can be important in a relationship and how often it is best to have sex. We will also talk about what you can do to have more/better sex.
Why Sex is Important in Relationships
Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship, but it can be an important part of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. How important it is varies from person to person. For some people, a strong sexual connection with their partner is very important. Others may find other forms of intimacy and connection to be more important.
Your sex drive is part of your biology. But the reason why sex is important to relationships is about much more than just physical urges. There are powerful emotions at play. Sex develops a deeper sense of commitment and affection. It is a way to be completely vulnerable with your partner and builds trust that you truly care about each other. Many of us are insecure about our physical appearance and our sexual performance. When we find someone who loves us in every way, it is very affirming.
Perhaps most importantly, when sex is a positive experience for both partners, it can help you feel more affectionate toward him or her and more satisfied with your relationship overall. This helps you feel more comfortable, relaxed, and happy around your partner, which can lead to greater physical intimacy. While the amount and type of sex can vary greatly for different couples, studies show that having sex regularly can actually improve your relationship.
Read more about the individual benefits of sex and orgasms here .
How often is sex best?
There is no short answer to this question, no equation or rating tool to set the number of times, duration or whatever you and your partner should indulge in. Sex is very dependent on each person’s libido and needs. If you are in the mood for a lot of sex, but your partner is rarely interested, that is a bad sign. Likewise, if you are both on the same page, that can be great.
The most important thing is not to have enough sex, but to have the right amount for you and your partner. That’s why having an open and honest conversation about sex is so important. Society puts a lot of pressure on the idea that it matters how many people you have sex with and how often. Even comparing yourself to your friends, if some of your friends seem to be doing it all the time, it can feel like you’re not having enough sex. But what others are doing is separate from you. There is no right amount, do what feels right for you and your relationship.
How can you improve the sex in your relationship?
That feeling of deep satisfaction and real connection during sex, that is often lacking. This often has to do with the fact that we are increasingly in our heads. We find it difficult to surrender to the instinctive, animal aspect of sex. Sex becomes more of a routine, with the same positions etc., without us really losing ourselves in it. Sometimes insecurity also plays a role.
This is all very understandable, but a shame! Because uncertainty and being in your head blocks your excitement. But you need that excitement. Only with real excitement, when you are completely absorbed in the moment, are hormones released that provide the feeling of connection with your partner: oxytocin and vasopressin.
Try to boost that feeling of connection together. And that doesn't necessarily have to be in the bedroom. Do fun things together. Reminisce. Or play an exciting game , that helps to evoke a feeling of attraction and connection. And believe us, you may not be used to consciously creating these kinds of moments anymore, but you will see: having fun together makes everything so much more fun and easier. You will wonder why you didn't make more time for this...
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