There’s a lot of mystery surrounding threesomes. You think you know what they’ll be like or how you’ll feel about them, but you can’t really know unless you’ve actually done it. While they’re a popular fantasy, threesomes can be confusing to navigate in real life. If you or your partner are interested in the idea of ​​a threesome, take some time to decide if it’s the right decision for you and your relationship.

And if you have decided that you are interested in a threesome, you might still have a lot of questions. Maybe you have no idea where to find the right person? Or maybe you just don't know how to make it a fun experience? Don't worry, you are not the only one with these questions! That is why we have listed 6 important tips to make your first threesome a dream.

What is a trio?

A threesome, also known as a trio or a ménage à trois, is any sexual activity involving three consenting adults pleasuring each other. This form of group sex can involve participants of either gender. In some cases, all three individuals are single. Other times, threesomes involve a couple adding a third party to their sex life.

1. Open communication

This one seems obvious, right? Yes, but for many couples it is a challenge, especially when it comes to sex. Before you have a threesome, it is important that you can talk about everything as openly as possible. This is the only way to learn more about each other’s needs, desires and possible concerns.

Being transparent is crucial for everyone involved in a threesome. When you and your partner are looking for a suitable third candidate, they need to be open and respectful. If not, before you know it, they will cross one or more boundaries and your adventure will be ruined. That is why good communication is paramount. Before, during and after having the threesome!

2. What is the 'perfect match' for you?

What kind of person would you like to have a threesome with? The first step in finding a suitable person is knowing what you want. Grab a pen and paper and make a list of everything you are looking for in your future threesome partner.

Examples of requirements your trio partner might meet:

• Attractive - someone we are both sexually attracted to
• Loving and respectful
• Confident, open and honest
• Someone who respects our relationship

Write down all your preferences and compare your list with your partner's. It's not much work and you'll know right away what you find important. This makes it a lot easier to find the right person for your threesome.

3. What is allowed and what is not?

Once you have found the right partner, this does not mean that you can immediately start planning your threesome date. Make sure that you have clear agreements in advance about what you can and cannot do during your session. All three of you should have made your boundaries clear, both sexually and emotionally. Once you have clearly established this, everyone will feel a lot safer.

Here are some examples of boundaries and agreements:

• I am not comfortable with anal stimulation. My vagina is okay to stimulate.
• I'd rather not have penetration the first time the three of us get together. I'm comfortable with oral sex.
• My personal boundary is that you don't kiss each other unless I give permission during the threesome.
• If it doesn't feel right for me, I want to be able to stop at any time. This request should be accepted by everyone.

4. Be creative

But where do you find the perfect person for your threesome? There are so many different ways to find someone - so it's more a question of where to start. The first step is for both of you to know exactly what the person should be like (see step 2).

Once you have found a suitable person, it is important that both partners are involved in the initial conversation . Perhaps one of you meets the person first, at a party or on social media. However, when discussing the possibility of a threesome, both of you should be present. This will prevent anyone from feeling left out and ensure that everything is communicated clearly and transparently.

Examples of places where you can find a suitable person:

• Tinder and other dating apps
• Parties
• The gym
• Conscious communities, especially tantric groups or workshops
• Friends or friends of friends

5. Protection:

The use of a condom is essential in a threesome. A condom is also necessary if you swap sex toys. An STD can easily be contracted. Another option is to have the three of you take an STD test beforehand, to rule out any risks.

6. Have fun!

You’ve found a partner and followed all the tips above. Now it’s time to surrender to the moment… even though you never know exactly how it will go. It might be disappointing and a one-time experiment, or it might be your best experience ever! After all, if you don’t try, you won’t know. It’s all part of your own sexual journey!