Do Cowgirls Have More Fun? The Cowgirl, also known as the woman-on-top and sister to the Reverse Cowgirl, may just be the key to more sex. Why? Cowgirl positions can help women move in a way that feels comfortable, focus pressure in the right places, and, for some women, increase their pleasure.

Think about it… There’s a reason everyone knows the Cowgirl – it takes relatively little expertise to work your way to the best kind of climax.

Being on top allows you to position yourself for maximum friction, caress your clitoris with a hand or toy, and do it at your own preferred pace. It’s also ideal for a partner with a slightly larger package, as you can control the depth and how much you want to take in.

If being on top isn’t your thing, that’s perfectly normal, as we all have our preferences. It’s understandable that it can be intimidating to be naked on top of someone, with your breasts out and completely in charge of the sex.

Some women may also feel that cowgirl positions make them feel more self-conscious about their bodies or unsure if they are moving correctly.

These are feelings that, if embraced, can be overcome. Focusing on pleasure rather than climax and focusing on how your body feels can help to ease some of your worries.

It can help you get out of your head and into your body, making it easier to have an orgasm.

To be fair, focusing on your pleasure can make things easier, but what about the practical aspects like what to do with your hands, what to do with your hips, or what to do when your legs get tired?

Yes, you can attend a class or just learn by doing, but it's nice to have a few tips and techniques up your sleeve before you saddle up.

From the basics to the best manners, here's how to best ride your partner like an expert.

But first, remember: always use lube!

Lubricant not only makes sex more enjoyable, but also safer. If there is not enough lubrication, whether it is natural or store-bought, it can cause small tears in the penis or vagina.

This can be incredibly unpleasant and increase the risk of infection, which may make you want to avoid intimacy altogether, which is obviously not ideal.

Take it easy

If you’re new to Cowgirl, don’t feel like you have to dive in headfirst. Take it slow. Slow down, change your hip angle, or move an inch down on the penis or toy to give your body time to react.

Because this position allows for very deep penetration, some individuals may find it painful because their partner may come into contact with their cervix.

All experts agree: if the position is extremely uncomfortable, stop immediately. And while it's uncommon, Cowgirl has the highest rate of "broken penis" injuries, which is another good reason to take it easy.

The critical angle

The Cowgirl doesn't mean sitting upright on top of your partner at a 90-degree angle, but leaning forward slightly (up to a 45-degree angle) for the easiest and most comfortable penetration.

Keep it exciting

Vary the pace and depth of penetration so that no clear pattern develops. Start with shallow, quick thrusts and gradually move down to your partner every fifth thrust.

If you're having trouble finding a rhythm, try alternating between bouncing and grinding or adjusting your speeds to suit your comfort and enjoyment.

Use your hands

Experiment with your partner's and your own hands. Have them place their hands on your hips for more leverage.

If you start to get tired, lean back a little and rest your arms behind you and on your partner's knees to help shift your weight.

For extra stimulation, try caressing your breasts or playing with your nipples. This also serves as a nice visual aid for your partner.

Don't be shy to take the lead

Want to make Cowgirl even sexier? Tell your partner to not move and keep their hands above their head or use handcuffs.

If you take that power away from them, they will go crazy when you show them how you like to ride them. Make sure you talk about it beforehand if you are going to use the handcuffs.

Also, don't be nervous about asking your partner to take over

Likewise, just because you’re in charge doesn’t mean you have to do all the work. It’s okay to ask your lover to meet you halfway and thrust from underneath.

Toys, toys, and more toys

Try leaning back to get better access to your clitoris while on top. If you need to steady yourself with your hands, ask your partner to hold the vibe for you.

This can be incredibly hot as you give them the reins (or toys) to their own pleasure. Are you looking for the perfect toy? Come visit our stores for the best sex toys and the best advice from our great colleagues.