This ancient practice is all about connecting with yourself and your partner.

You may have heard that tantric sex (tantra sex) is the key to the hottest sexual experience of your life. We’re talking full-body orgasms and euphoric sensations that feel almost spiritual. But tantra sex can often be misunderstood. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t have to be intimidating, and you don’t have to be super flexible, religious, or spiritual to enjoy it. All you need is an open mind and a willing partner. (TBH, you don’t even really need a partner.)

If you’ve just gone 👀, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to your beginner’s guide to what tantric sex is and what its benefits are. Next week, we’ll also share all the tips on how to practice this ancient practice.

But first, what does “tantra” actually mean?

Before we get into what tantric sex is and how to practice it, let’s start with the basics. To begin, the Sanskrit definition of “tantra” is “the chain of a loom or the strands of a braid.” It basically describes the weaving or binding together of tantric teachings or themes in order to achieve liberation and enlightenment (a higher state of consciousness). “Tantra” can also refer to the sacred tantric texts and scriptures known as the Tantras, or that specific genre of scriptures.

Compared to ancient tantric traditions, which span thousands of years, Western understandings and teachings of tantra have a much shorter history and are what we might call “neotantra.” It is a modern approach to tantra that focuses on healing trauma blockages, deeply connecting with your body and emotions, and working with sexual energies (which was only part of the practice in original tantra, and is usually reserved for advanced students).

So...what is tantric sex ?

Tantric sex is essentially a slow, meditative sexual practice. Tantric sex describes a more conscious approach to sex with the goal of cultivating a sense of connection, intimacy, and pleasure with your partner rather than achieving orgasm. (Although, yes, it is possible to experience orgasm during tantric sex.) There is no attachment to the outcome, no goal other than to be present and connected.

Interestingly, some Tantric traditions even view sex as a means to enlightenment.

Benefits of tantra sex

Now that you know what tantra sex is, you might be wondering why you should do it? Here are some of the benefits…

There are many reasons to experiment with tantric sex, whether you’re looking to improve your mental health, your relationship health, or your physical health. The key is mindfulness. Tantric sex is all about intentionality and full presence, and if you can take the time to be fully relaxed, vulnerable, and aware of yourself and your partner, you can create new and healthy patterns in your sexuality and life.

First, tantric sex allows you to become more aware of and connected to your body’s wants and needs . When you’re slowing down sex, either with yourself or with a partner, you have to think, “Wow, what feels really good for me?” Not, “What have I learned that should feel good?” Advocating for yourself can be a huge confidence booster, both in and out of the bedroom. Additionally, tantric sex allows you to become more connected and curious about your partner’s body, creating space to experiment.

Tantric sex can also be a huge source of release from sexual shame and even trauma . In some spaces and communities, sex is still (yes, still!) a huge taboo topic, and as a result, it’s common for feelings of shame to arise when we talk about it. But nothing is more natural than sex, and truly practicing slow, mindful tantric sex can help you completely rewrite your relationship with it, because you can see it for what it is – something wonderful.

Tantra sex also increases blood circulation , which improves overall sexual health. The simultaneous (or simultaneous) deep breathing helps detoxify the body, and the increased heart rate means a strengthened immune system. All of these factors contribute to rejuvenation and longevity.

But one of the most striking benefits is the complete rewriting and reframing of your relationship with sexuality . Instead of being a dark shadow, sex becomes a source of inspiration, joy, connection and liberation, which is tantra.

Want to know more about how to practice tantric sex? Keep an eye on our blog, next week we will share all the tips!