If you have a vulva, cowgirl is a great sex position to explore your own pleasure.
The cowgirl is often a favorite among women because it allows a woman to have more control over the sexual experience, allowing her to be freer in her movements.
But honestly, being on top brings up a whole new set of questions: What do you do with your hands? What do you do when your legs get tired? Should you dress up as a cowboy or are costumes optional? Should I spell “coconut” with my hips?
Last week we gave you tips and tricks for the Cowgirl position. From the basics to the best ways, here 's how to ride your partner like an expert when you're on top.
If you’re looking to get more experience in the saddle , read on for some tips on doing the cowgirl sex position in different ways. Remember to focus on what feels good to you. What works for someone else might not work for you, so check in with your body and adjust as needed!
We give you some awesome Cowgirl positions to make this position even more awesome ! But first…
How do you do the Cowgirl position?
To do the traditional cowgirl position:
- Your partner lies flat on their back with their legs extended.
- You sit on them with one leg on each side and your face facing their face.
- While sitting upright, insert your partner's penis (or a sex toy) into your vagina.
When you're in the riding position on top, you can choose the pace, depth, and angle of penetration, which can help you find what feels best for you.
This position also provides more friction on the clitoris , the main pleasure center!
Stimulating your clitoris makes you more likely to orgasm – many women say they can only have an orgasm during sex if their clitoris is stimulated.
Now that you know how the regular Cowgirl works, we can move on to the next few variations!
The Upside Thrust
Instead of going down on your partner, have them lift their hips to thrust into you. You can reach behind them, finger their backside, or slowly dribble some lube into your vulva and stroke your clit while they watch.
The Bed Squat
If you have a sturdy headboard, grab it while you're on top. Instead of kneeling, squat - you'll have the leverage you need to grab on and lean back further to get a well-aimed penetration into the upper wall of your vagina.
Make it sensational by having your lover join in by caressing your clitoris.
The Win-Win
Raise your arms, run your fingers through your hair, arch your back, push your chest forward as you move yourself toward the sky.
Put some lube on your partner's fingers and let them slide their fingers along your thighs to make it even more amazing.
They might not even have to move their fingers as they hold firmly on each side of your clit – every thrust will suddenly feel 200 times more incredible.
(You might also consider using a small vibrator, like the Bullet !)
The Long Burn
While on top, position and move yourself so that your clitoris rubs against their pubic bone – this is where all the magic happens.
Not up and down. Instead, rock and rub them lightly if you like. That way they can watch you orgasm as they slowly build up to their own kind of explosion.
The Hot Seat
Place them on a recliner/chair, climb on top, put your legs over the armrests and lean back, resting your hands on their thighs. That's it! Your work here is done.
The other pushes up from the bottom and the slope allows them to attach to your upper vaginal wall in a very seductive way. And all the while they have an *amazing* view of you in all your glory.
The Mariposa
Instead of sitting on your partner normally, try squatting and leaning back for a raw, super animalistic feeling.
Make it even hotter by pushing your knees together and then apart while your partner enjoys the view as they lie down and watch you. Have them move your legs or, even better, use toys for variety.
Rope'em, tie'em, hold'em down and ride'em! Giddy up Cowgirl!
