Forgot your Christmas present for your loved one? Or do you want to surprise your partner with a special intimate present? The best Christmas present is surely a body-to-body massage. With a body-to-body massage you probably give the most erotic massage you have ever heard. Because let's be honest: a massage where your bodies slide over each other is intimate and hot!
An erotic massage is one of the most luxurious forms of 'foreplay' there is. Preparing for sex - whatever 'sex' means to you. Erotic massage is the perfect way to connect physically and emotionally, but also to turn someone on.
Why give a sensual massage?
Most of our daily communication is nonverbal, and body language plays a huge role in how we communicate and understand other people. It should therefore stand to reason that massage, one of the most intimate forms of touch, is a great way to communicate with your loved one. Every caress, stroke, and rub can be used to say everything from “I adore your body” to “I hope you had a good day at work.”
So while massage is of course great for releasing tension and relieving physical pain, it can also help unblock their mind – as they focus less on the pain and stress that comes with it.
We have created a step-by-step plan to make your body-to-body massage a great success.
The preparation
Prepare well!
A body-to-body massage requires preparation. Whether you decide to give their entire body some attention, or just their hands or back, here’s what you’ll need to prepare. You’ll need a few things that will not only ensure a comfortable massage, but also keep your floor, bed, or couch clean.
- Lots of lubricant or massage oil
A body-to-body massage requires a lot of lubricant or massage oil. Really a lot. That makes it one of the most important parts of your massage, a smooth oil or lotion that lets your bodies glide over each other and leaves their skin feeling smooth and nourished. This type of massage does not feel very pleasant if you do not use lubricant. Your skin will rub and you can imagine that this is less pleasant. You could use regular massage oil, but if you treat your partner with a lubricant or lickable massage oil, you know that it is safe to also come into contact with more... sensitive parts of the body. A small bottle of 150 ml is not enough, so make sure you have enough lubricant. You can stock up on a good supply with us, come visit us in the store soon!
If you are using a massage candle, light the wick and as the wax melts, the candle will turn into a warm liquid that can be safely poured onto the skin for a sweet-smelling massage. Massage candles are great for setting the mood and adding a little ceremony to your sensual massage experience.
- A sheet
Some gels or oils can leave nasty stains on your bed or furniture. That’s why it’s a good idea to buy a special sheet, or use an old one. That prevents the oil from getting into your underwear or sheets. There are sheets that are specially made for your mattress, but there are also large sheets that you can use anywhere in the house!
- The right atmosphere
You don’t need a huge apartment or a spare bedroom to give an erotic massage, as long as the space you have is nice and relaxing (and comfortable). Whether you plan on massaging your partner in your bedroom or living room, as long as you can get the mood down, you’re good to go.
Temperature . To set the mood, you might want to start by warming up the room. Since your partner will likely be naked (or at least semi-naked), you want to make sure the environment is as comfortable as possible.
Lighting . You’ll also want to dim the lights or light some candles. Harsh lighting can be an uncomfortable distraction during the massage, so add a little romance with some fairy lights or candles.
Music . Music is an essential part of setting the mood. So you might want to put on some relaxing music to get you in the mood. Please, no AC/DC or Metallica. Ambient sounds or something like "Liquid Mind" will do just fine.
Make sure you know what your goal is; either to relax him/her and get him/her in the mood for sex or to put him/her to sleep. If a romantic massage is an appetizer before the main course, choose something sexy like soul music (YouTube playlist for erotic massage), or if it’s for relaxation, go for soft and slow blues, or even nature sounds like running water or the sounds of the rainforest. Spotify or other music apps often have playlists called “massage music” or “meditation music,” so that’s worth checking out too.
Let's start with the body-to-body massage
Let's get started!
Once you have everything set up, you are ready to get started.
Have your partner lie on their stomach. Take the lubricant and pour it over their back and legs. You can be quite generous to make sure you use enough gel. Then use your hands to lubricate their back and legs so that all the oil or lube is spread evenly. Now the real work can begin! The following steps can be done in this order, but you can also do them however you like.
Step 1: Massage with your forearms
In this technique, you don’t use your hands, but your forearms. Start with the calves and move on to the thighs. You can choose to sit on your partner’s buttocks or next to their feet. Now, firmly stroke their calves with your forearms and work your way up. It’s best to apply some pressure to them, as there is usually a lot of muscle and fat in these areas.
You can also use your elbows for a nice massage. After a few minutes, move on to the back and massage it firmly with your forearms. Be careful with your elbows near the spine and ribs, they can be sensitive. Finally, you can also do the upper arms. Do not use your forearms and elbows on hard parts of the body. That will not feel good for your partner.
Step 2: Use your breasts
For a man, this step might be a little harder to perform, but you can still use your chest to perform this technique. Slide your upper body from the lower back to the upper back. A woman can tease her partner by simply sliding her nipples over the back for a subtle tickle. Then let your breasts run over the shoulders, neck, and back, which feels nice and soft for your partner. You can rotate your upper body or move back and forth. Big or small breasts, this is super sexy and we are sure your partner will not be able to get enough of it!
Step 3: Thighs to Thighs
Now lower your body all the way onto your partner's, making sure your thighs are touching theirs. Kiss your partner's neck while bouncing your thighs up and down as if you were swimming. Now shift slightly to the left and move your right thigh up and down your partner's thigh. Then do the same for the other side.
Step 4: Butt to butt
Sit up straight and sit on your partner's buttocks. Sit in a crouched position, like a frog. Now rotate your hips so that your buttocks slide over your partner's. You can also move your buttocks back and forth, especially in the lower back. If necessary, use the same technique for your partner's shoulders and back.
Step 5: Full body massage
Lay on top of your partner and use your entire body to massage your lover. This will feel warm and comfortable for them! You can move up and down, although it may be difficult to get a good grip due to the lubricant. If necessary, pull your body up against your partner’s shoulders. You can also place your hands next to their hips for support. Another way to massage with your body is to move like a snake. Make wriggling movements. Then turn your partner over and continue in the same way.
Step 6: Focus on the front
Now that your partner is lying on his back, you can choose to do a few steps again, so that the front is also taken care of. But you can also make the massage a bit more erotic by gently massaging the penis or vagina with your thighs or arms. As the icing on the cake, let your vagina or penis slide over your partner's body.
Please note: If you use massage oil, it is best not to massage the penis or vagina. Massage oil can irritate the genitals and disrupt the pH value. If you use a lubricant – or a massage oil that is also suitable as a lubricant – then this is not a problem.
