Once you have decided that you want to try anal sex, it can be quite exciting at first. The anus naturally reacts immediately when something tries to enter: you tense up. However, with enough patience, preparation and practice, anal sex will become easier and easier. A good anal foreplay can be the start of a great anal experience! In this blog we give you 'first time anal' tips and explain everything about anal sex, preparation, hygiene, foreplay, toys and positions.
Why is anal sex nice?
Many people think or are afraid that anal sex feels unpleasant or hurts, and that can be your experience the first time anal or if you are not well prepared. If you prepare well for anal (toileting, lots of lubricant for anal, excitement, nice foreplay), there is (almost) no pain during anal sex. And secretly that little bit of pain and that extra pressure is very nice and exciting.
Anal sex is extra fun and nice, because it is so naughty. It is something different for a change! But besides the mental part, it is also really nice physically. Your anus has a lot of sensitive nerve endings, so touching it can be very nice.
So good that most men and women also come from it. Research shows that people who had anal sex had an orgasm more often. Especially when it was alternated with other sex, such as oral (and vaginal for women). For 94% of the people in the study, it turned out to be the magic combination for a great orgasm.
So how do you get to this explosive orgasm? Preparation is key .
Most importantly, put your partner at ease
Putting your partner at ease is very important, the step of trying anal for the first time can be big. Many people are afraid of pain during anal sex. By talking about it and communicating with each other, it doesn't have to be scary.
Anal sex always feels best when you can communicate openly and freely with your partner. So the moment something feels good or not, you should let your partner know right away. Your partner doesn't know how you feel.
Also talk about the preparations together and ensure that you are ready for this new exciting experience.
Preparation - What do you need?
Anal lubricant and condoms
What you really need to have on hand is plenty of anal lubricant , condoms and tissues. Anal lubricant is essential as the anus does not naturally produce moisture like the vagina does. By making the anus really wet you prevent it from being painful and anal sex will go more smoothly.
Make sure your lubricant is suitable for use with condoms, and we recommend using a silicone-based lubricant specifically for anal use . A silicone-based anal lubricant dries out less quickly and is therefore better suited for anal sex.
Take it easy and build it up
When you want to start with anal sex it is advisable to start slowly, do not go straight to anal sex. Start with anal foreplay by using your fingers, tongue or a small sex toy specifically for anal stimulation. To slowly get used to the feeling of anal sex you could buy a butt plug for example. These butt plugs come in different sizes, with which you can start small and slowly go to a larger size.
Relax
To ensure that you do not have pain during anal sex, it is important that you, in addition to using lubricant, also learn to relax your anus. Especially in the beginning, you will tend to tense your anus. A tip to relax your anus is to massage it gently first. Use lubricant for this and then gently rub your finger around the anus. If the anus is relaxed enough, you can also finger your anus, but make sure that you are aroused and relaxed enough before you put anything in your anus.
Do you have a partner? Then you can also ask him or her to orally satisfy your anus, also called rimming. Just before or after you come, it is often easier to relax your anus. That is a good moment for your partner to gently massage your anus with a toy or his fingers. You can also use a vibrating sex toy for this, such as a bullet . The vibrations can also relax the anus. But be careful, the bullet is NOT for in your anus, only to stimulate the external erogenous zones.
Anal hygiene
Good hygiene during anal sex is very important. Make sure you have done an anal douche and that the rectum is empty, so that the penis does not come into contact with feces. You can empty your rectum by defecating or doing an anal douche just before anal sex. An anal douche is an absolute must-have to clean your intimate areas so that you can start your adventures clean (and prevent accidents). So take good care of yourself and take a long shower and pay extra attention to cleaning the backside.
Follow these steps when performing an anal douche:
- Make sure you have pooped beforehand.
- Wash your hands and make sure the equipment you use is clean.
- Sit down in a squat position. Insert the nozzle of the hose or bottle 2 or 3 centimeters into your anus. Let the water flow in very slowly.
- Stop when it feels like your rectum is full. Then remove the nozzle from the anus and keep the water in.
- After 5 to 20 minutes you will feel like you need to go to the toilet. Sit on the toilet and relax. Do not apply pressure, the water will flow out by itself.
To make sure everything is hygienic, it is important to always use a condom , this prevents 100% of the penis coming into contact with feces. The condom also prevents the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases. Also always use a new condom when you want to alternate anal sex with vaginal or oral sex.
Whatever you do, make sure that your fingers or penis do not first go into your anus and then into your vagina. The bacteria present in the anus are harmful to your vagina, they affect the pH value, which increases the risk of a yeast infection or bladder infection. First wash your finger or his penis with lukewarm water and possibly a pH-neutral soap, so that you are sure that no bacteria end up in the vagina.
Foreplay - Turn each other on!
Anal foreplay is just as important as regular foreplay! It makes you more aroused, horny so you are ready for anal sex or anal fingering - physically, mentally and emotionally.
Anal foreplay gets your anus used to touch and stimulation, start by massaging around the anus with your fingers. So don't immediately insert something into your anus, such as a finger, penis or anal toy. Slowly build up the stimulation and touch. Using your tongue (rimming) and licking the anus is also a good way to prepare your anus for anal sex, and this also feels very nice. A great way to experience anal foreplay. If your anus is stimulated by foreplay, it is a lot easier and more enjoyable to have anal sex, because your anus is stimulated and prepared for the next step: such as anal fingering, anal sex and/or using an anal sex toy.
Anal Toys - Extra Pleasure
There are different types of toys for anal sex. Earlier we mentioned the butt plugs that you can use to get used to anal stimulation and touch. Once you are used to it, they also provide wonderful stimulation.
You also have inflatable butt plugs , also called anal balloons. This way you can determine the diameter of your anal plug yourself. Whether the plug is already inserted or not does not matter. With the help of an anal balloon you can determine how big the plug becomes when using it for anal stimulation. It falls under the size-adjustable anal toys.
You can also use anal beads , these also build up the stimulation with anal sex. You can also spoil your partner with this anal toy! They are specially made so that your anus is optimally stimulated.
You also have special prostate stimulators , these make it easier for men to stimulate the prostate and have a great orgasm. You can also use it with your partner, let your partner spoil you or spoil your partner.
And of course the anal vibrators , these make anal stimulation even better, by the vibrations that stimulate the anus. They have a special shape made for anal use. Both a man and a woman can use an anal vibrator and for the man it can also massage and stimulate the prostate, which can eventually lead to an orgasm!
Anal Sex - He Goes In
The most important thing is that you feel comfortable and relaxed. Feeling tense is the main reason why you can have pain during anal sex. To ensure that you do not have pain during anal sex, it is important that you use a lot of anal lubricant ! Also learn to relax your anus, but after the nice foreplay that you have had now, that will certainly be fine.
Many people follow porn as an example, but this is often not realistic at all. So don't copy this, the way anal sex is performed during porn is often not nice or pleasant but painful. Follow your own feeling, communicate with each other and start calmly.
What anal sex position
A common position for anal sex is doggystyle. However, this position puts a lot of pressure on your anus and is therefore not the best position to start with. Therefore, choose a position such as sideways, squatting or missionary.
Sideways is when you lie on your side with one leg pulled up, so you are in the perfect position. Your partner lies behind you like a spoon, and can easily penetrate your anus. The disadvantage of this position is that your partner cannot "push" against anything when making his movements. Some people also like it when they lie flat on their stomach, but sideways is easier because you are in a better position.
If you are having anal sex for the first time, it is nice to determine how fast and how deep you go. This is easier in a squatting position . If your partner is lying on his back, sit on him with one leg on each side. Now you can lower yourself over his penis at your own pace. By moving up and down, you determine the rhythm and how deep you want to go.
In missionary, you lie on your back and keep your legs spread against your chest. As your partner leans over you, you can hold his pelvis and give him some guidance as he penetrates you. A nice advantage here: your faces are close together, so you can also kiss and kiss.
All in a row
The most important thing about anal sex is that you feel comfortable and relaxed, whether you do it alone or with your partner. Always listen to your body and don't force anything! With the right preparation, foreplay and positions, nothing can go wrong. Enjoy! We hope you found these first time anal tips useful. And do you have any more questions? Don't hesitate to contact us , no question is too crazy.
