Do you come quickly and want more control over your orgasms? Or do you think it's time for more intense climaxes? Then edging can help. Edging is a form of orgasm control that can be very useful.
Edging gives you the opportunity to explore your sexual pleasure and come when it feels right for you. An orgasm is just one part of how your body experiences pleasure; the moments leading up to it can be just as pleasurable, and edging is a way to prolong how long that delicious build-up lasts. Understanding what edging is and how to do it for yourself opens up a whole new part of your sexual experience. In this article, we’ll explain everything you need to know about this technique.
What is edging ?
Edging means "pushing the boundaries", hence the name. Edging is all about exploring your body and your orgasm. You learn how far you can go, where your point of no return (PNR) is and when to stop to avoid an orgasm. It basically means masturbating without coming. As soon as you feel the climax coming, you stop the stimulation. You can do this multiple times in a row. When you allow yourself to reach a climax, this climax is extra satisfying.
The benefits of edging .
- You get to know your body better
- You get to know your PNR
- It is a method to get to know your partner better
- You gain more control over your orgasms
- The final orgasm is much more intense
How to practice edging .
In general, it’s easier for women to practice edging than it is for men. Unless you’re a woman who uses a sex toy , in which case it can be quite a challenge. If you want to get started with edging, it’s best to start solo. That way, you have complete control over the stimulation and your orgasm.
- Make sure you won't be disturbed for at least half an hour. Make sure you have a private space where you can do your business, such as a bedroom.
- Stimulate yourself until you get aroused. You can use sex toys or your hands for this.
- Keep stimulating yourself (gently). You can do what you always do, or you can choose not to touch the most sensitive spots. This is the step where you get to know your PNR. As soon as you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, stop stimulating. Always look for the limit, but make sure you stop before you cross it.
- Practice this for a while. You now have two choices; you can stop without reaching a climax or you can have a great orgasm.
Different edging techniques
- The start-stop technique.
Try the start-stop method by simply stopping stroking or stimulating and then starting again after a few seconds. Instead of immediately giving in to your body's desire for orgasm, this teases it and extends your time to enjoy.
- The squeeze technique (for the penises).
Depending on your sensitivity level, it may take longer than a few seconds to hold off an orgasm. In this case, in addition to the start-stop method, we suggest the squeeze technique. This involves “stopping stimulation and squeezing the head of the penis for about 30 seconds, then continuing.” It may take some practice to successfully hold for this long, so consider building up to 30 seconds as you get used to edging.
- Cones (for the vaginas).
This form of edging involves Kegel exercises and is designed to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles. You still stop just before you reach orgasm, but when you slow down or stop the stimulation, you are performing Kegels.
- Use a toy (for the vaginas).
For those with vulvas, we recommend using a vibrator with powerful direct clitoral stimulation and an easy on/off switch (like this one ). The ability to quickly turn the toy off right before you orgasm is essential when practicing edging.
- The distraction.
Just as you're about to orgasm, stop the stimulation and switch to a gentler form of touch elsewhere on the body. If you're with a partner, they can stop stimulating your clitoris and move to simply caressing your breasts or running their fingers along your thighs.
Edging as a foreplay
Edging is also very suitable as foreplay. For example, you can agree with your partner that you can only come when you see each other again. This is especially fun if you don't see each other for a few days. Tease each other with sexy messages and touch yourself without coming. When you see each other again, you will have an explosion of an orgasm!
Edging during sex
But you can also practice edging during sex with your partner. By delaying your orgasm multiple times, the final orgasm will be much more intense and satisfying. Practice makes perfect! By practicing edging alone, you will also learn how to apply your techniques during sex. Do you often come too early during sex? Then edging can prevent this from happening too quickly, because you know exactly when to stop the stimulation.
